I’m (briefly) weighing in on the issue of deception floating around the M/M genre lately (or for a while now, I guess).
I value honesty and genuineness more than any other traits probably. There’s none I can think of above those at the moment anyway. I also forgive pretty easily, but once someone deceives you, it’s hard to go back to normal, you know? Just like once you squeeze too much toothpaste out of the tube, you can’t shove it all back in. It’s out there, forever changed.
I’m sure these individuals had their reasons, some of them may even have good ones, but that doesn’t erase the hurt or betrayal the rest of us feel when we realize we’ve been been duped. People should be held accountable for their mistakes, and though it’s probably best not to throw around harsh words left and right, it’s okay to be hurt and share that feeling.
I’ve not been super close to any of the recent “coming out” posers, and for that I’m thankful. But my heart goes out to those who were and to those who have lost a friend or someone they looked up to.
Though I’m pretty open about myself, I don’t share my real name with many people to keep my professional and personal life separate. It’s all about a comfort level with me and nothing more. I don’t make things up about myself, and if I did, they’d be a hell of a lot more interesting than my kids driving me bananas.
I’m fully aware anyone who researches hard enough can find me, but I’d hope most would respect my privacy as I do theirs. I’ve met lots of people in the twi-fandom (where I first began writing) and if I ever work up the nerve, I hope to come to one or more of the writing cons around the country to meet more of you guys.
Maybe that wasn’t so brief after all… Hope everyone has a great week ❤